Did you hear the news recently that Janet Jackson was having a baby? A celebrity being pregnant really isn’t big news, but a woman who is fifty having her first child is. Being a later in life parent isn’t something new. In fact, more and more women have put off becoming a mom until they’re older. I was thirty-eight almost thirty-nine when I had my son.
I’m glad I waited until I was older before getting pregnant, but now that I am 52 years old, I couldn’t imagine having a 2-year-old.
There are some major advantages to being a later in life parent, though. While one would argue that having a baby when you’re older has more cons than pros, I want to discuss the benefits of being a later in life parent; because parenthood rocks no matter when you start that journey.
Why Wait to Become a Parent?
Take into consideration first that later in life parents seem to be increasing in numbers, thinking about the 30 year age category alone, they are rising faster than the number of teen pregnancies in the United States, this says something. So what is it that makes people wait longer to have babies?
- Later in life mothers have a higher self-esteem, having had the brunt of their early adult years to build a career, have more life experiences and relationship mishaps brings value to motherhood that a younger mom usually can’t even come close to.
- Later in life fathers have had a longer time to sow their oats, play the field a bit and get financially secure to have a family of his own, alleviating the stress stemming from financial concerns of new parents.
Now that you have an understanding that the older you are, the more confident and secure your life is, what are some of the benefits to being a later in life parent?
Benefits to Being a Later in Life Parent
- Financially Secure – You have more financial stability (usually) to raise a child. A later in life parent means that you have less chance of living paycheck to paycheck struggling to buy necessities for your newborn.
- Intellectually Advanced – A later in life parent has been there, done that, and isn’t one to sweat the small stuff. When you are a parent who is able to let go of the little things, it makes for a more relaxed parenthood journey.
- Emotional Stability – Once you hit mid 30’s you are naturally better at putting others before yourself, because you have had time to sort out what you want in life and what you don’t want. Being emotionally stable helps you to be a more stable parent.
- Maintain Youth – Having a child later in life helps you to maintain that feeling of youth, bringing up a child requires energy and excitement. When you are raising a child, you have no choice other than to be adventurous with them which helps you maintain your own youth.
- More Grateful – Since you are a later in life parent, heading towards the other end of your life journey, there is less you will take for granted. If you go into parenthood with more of a grateful heart, it probably suffices to say that you will cherish each moment you have as a parent.
The reality of being a later in life parent is that it comes with a unique set of pros and cons, today we wanted to focus on the benefits because we feel the benefits of being a later in life parent far supersede that of being a younger parent.
It really doesn’t matter what your age is when you first become a mom, being a parent is tough. Check out this post, What no one tells you about parenthood, to see what I mean.
If you are on your own journey of being a later in life parent we wish you much happiness and luck, don’t forget to think about these benefits you bring to parenthood and have fun feeling young again as you raise the next generation of adults.
I wish Janet Jackson all the best and I’m sure she will be a great later in life parent!
If you’re a parent how old were you when you had your first child? Do you wish you were younger or older?