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How to Raise an Independent Child

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: May 24, 2016 | Categories: Parenting

On Sunday we waved bye to our 13 year-old independent son as he and a bus load of his theater friends embarked on a week long trip to New York City… I compared it to the first day of Kindergarten. It was a very similar feeling for me — except when I left him at school that very first morning, I saw him five hours later. I have to wait a whole week to seem him again now. 

How to raise an independent child. New York City trip...

Our son spent four nights away at a summer camp, but this is by far the longest and farthest away he has ever been away from us. I know he will be just fine, my husband and I, well, I am certain it is much tougher on us. We are so excited for this amazing opportunity for him. He will be seeing four Broadway shows, taking an acting class, meeting actors, and lots of the tourist/site-seeing stuff, too. Independent or not, I’m very grateful for a great group of chaperones who have kept me updated with photos.

Planning for this trip got me to thinking about how independent our son is… or isn’t. Have we taught our son the proper skills he needs to be independent? 

One of the most important gifts we can give our children is the ability to be an independent person. But how do you encourage a child to be independent? What is it that parents are capable of doing that provides their child with this instinct to take on the world independently and be their own person? How to raise an independent child can be made easier with these three elements:

  • Praise
  • Unconditional love
  • Support

Raising an independent child...

How to Raise an Independent Child

With those three elements being a primary portion of your parenting days, you will undoubtedly start encouraging your child to be independent and more confident. One of our parental duties is to make sure that our children are ready for the real world once they hit adult age. 

The least frightening way to encourage your child to be independent is to let go gradually over time, for instance the first step could be to start teaching your child to have their own opinions. When a situation arises that may frustrate your child or confuse them, take time to have them share their thoughts and emotions that may be going on in that moment.

Let your child know Independent Child

While a parent ultimately rules the home, having a safe home environment where your child can freely express their opinions teaches the life skill of independence. A child who is allowed to express their concerns, emotions and thoughts with their parents is more apt to do so outside of the home.

Encouraging independent play for an independent child

Allowing your child to have age appropriate independent play time, such as coloring at the table while you cook dinner, going to the backyard to play, or engaging in activities with their siblings beyond electronic time are fantastic ways to increase your child’s ability to be on their own.

Adding daily activities to your child’s schedule that allow for independent play time will increase their ability to be on their own for years come. When a child is able to self-entertain and think freely, they tend to be great leaders in the work force as an adult.

Raise an independent child with praise and encouragement...

Last but not least, take time each day to acknowledge a task your child has completed on their own, give praise and kind words showing your excitement for them as they work to be independent. When your child fails at something and throws a fit of frustration, pick them up with your inspiring words so that they are encouraged to try again next time.  

If you continue on the path of teaching your child the skills they need to be independent, they will surely thrive in this busy world as they grow into adults and move out on their own.

It will be much easier raising an independent child if we let our kids know that they may make mistakes or fail, but it’s important to learn from our mistakes and to always try. And it’s also important that we let our kids make those mistakes… no matter how difficult it is for us.

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By: Donna Chaffins | Date: May 18, 2016 | Categories: Health and Fitness
Baby Boomers need to be tested for Hepatitis C

I am participating in a VIN campaign for Quest Diagnostics. I am receiving a fee for posting; however, the opinions expressed in this post are my own. I am in no way affiliated with Quest Diagnostics and do not earn a commission or percent of sales. Did you know that 3 to 5 million baby […]

Chance to Win a Maytag Washer Dryer Set Every Day Through 5/29

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: May 14, 2016 | Categories: Giveaways

One thing I do a lot of, I mean a LOT of, is laundry. And to be honest, it’s not one of my favorite chores. Yet, it is one of life’s necessities. Having a good washer and dryer makes the chore of laundry so much easier. I’ve been in a couple of situations where I […]

$100 Amazon Gift Card Giveaway Ends 5/26

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: May 12, 2016 | Categories: Giveaways

Once again I have a great giveaway to give you a chance to win a $100 Amazon gift card. I’m a huge Amazon shopper and love when I get a gift card/code, especially since I seem to shop at least once a week from Amazon. So when I get a chance to join up with […]

$200 Target Gift Card Giveaway Ends 5/23

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: May 9, 2016 | Categories: Giveaways
$200 Target gift card giveaway!

I’m thrilled to be able to offer you, one of my readers another chance at winning an awesome prize! Target is one of my favorite places to shop and I’d love to win a Target gift card, so I figure you might, too.  GIVEAWAY DETAILS Prize: $200 Target Gift Card Giveaway organized by: Oh My Gosh Beck! […]

Orange Sizzle Drink Recipe

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: | Categories: Recipes
Non-Alcoholic Orange Sizzle drink recipe for a summer cookout...

School is about out here and I’m so ready for a summer break. It’s time for picnics, cookouts and BBQs. So I’ve been looking for summer recipes, for both food and drinks. I like to keep us refreshed and hydrated during the summer and one of my favorites is what I call an Orange Sizzle […]

Benefits of Being a Later in Life Parent

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: May 6, 2016 | Categories: Parenting
Waiting to have a baby? Benefits of being a later in life parent...

Did you hear the news that Janet Jackson was having a baby? A celebrity being pregnant really isn’t big news, but a woman who is fifty having her first child is. Being a later in life parent isn’t something new. In fact, more and more women have put off becoming a mom until their older. […]

Low Self-Esteem? 4 Things That Can Lead to Low Self Esteem

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: May 5, 2016 | Categories: Health and Fitness, Women

Low self-esteem can hinder you, hold you back from being the best you, you can be. It doesn’t matter how old you are, it’s important to have a positive self-esteem. We teach the importance of self-confidence in our children, but those lessons sometimes get forgotten when we become adults. As an adult, there’s so much […]

Prince, Gone But Not Forgotten & A Purple Rain Cocktail

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: May 2, 2016 | Categories: Music
Purple Rain Cocktail to celebrate Prince

When I heard the news that Prince had died, I felt like I had lost someone close. Yes, I know that he was a celebrity and I never even met him in person… although I did see him in concert twice, I felt like I knew him.  Prince was a huge part of my life […]

$100 Starbucks Gift Card Giveaway Ends 5/11

By: Donna Chaffins | Date: April 27, 2016 | Categories: Giveaways
$100 Starbucks Gift Card Giveaway

I love coffee. It is my drink of choice anytime, any day. Starbucks is one of my favorite places to get my coffee, too. So when I had the chance to join up with some fabulous bloggers to bring one of you a chance to win a $100 Starbucks gift card giveaway… I jumped on […]